So frustrated!

I thought I would post something about what has been going on at our house. Basically Jayden is having some psych issues and extremely bad behavior. It started about 2 months ago and at that time his psychiatrist told me that it was probably from his seizures. So we started him on a seizure med which I was trying to avoid. Well since then his behavior has gotten worse and worse. When he has an "episode" as I call it, he kicks, hits, screams as if he is being stabbed with a knife or something, bites, spits, swears, tells me he hates me and he is going to kill me. We never know what is going to set him off anymore. It could be not getting what he wants, a song or show he doesnt like, a noise, pretty much anything at this point. His Dr made some changes to his meds said to wrap him up in a blanket and rock him when he gets this bad. Let me tell you that is WAY more difficult than you think it would be. I have gotten noise violations because he has been screaming outside when we have left our apartment(to go to work) or are coming home from somewhere after 9pm. Last week someone complained that he had been outside screaming really late at night and that there wasnt any parents out there with him. He has been in bed by 8:30every night that we have been home. 4-5 nights a week I work from 1800-0600. The night they were referring to I was heading to work at 2300 and he was screaming because he wanted to sleep at home. The other night I had a neighbor come down the stairs when we got home because Jayden was screaming. It was at 2111. I know because I looked at the clock when I turned off the car. The guy just sat there staring and I looked up at him and said, " Do you need something?" in a very rude voice and he said, " Yeah, my baby ir trying to sleep." From there I almost lost it as I told him my child was having a psychotic episode and he still sat there and stared. I still want to go punch him in the face. People are ignorant and I am tired of it! Jayden rang one of the neighbors doors on Sat morning at 0830. I dont know why, I was gathering up our grocerys and had about 10 bags and a gallon of milk and my big work bag when I heard this guy screaming I am gonna kick you a$$ kid over and over. This guy has some mental issues but I dont care you do not come out yelling at a child that way, EVER! Jayden was obviously scared and ran inside. I stood at the bottom of the stairs and told him if he ever talked to my kid that way again I would kick his trash(not in those exact words mind you). Was it the right thing to say? NO but I will stick up for my child at all times. We did have a long discussion about not ringing peoples doorbells anymore though. I feel like at some point it really is going to come down to me fighting it out with my neighbors. I have become more agitated, ornery, and depressed lately. I am constantly on the verge of tears or wanting to punch someone in the face. This is not me. I feel that I have failed as a mother because I cant help my son. I am trying but no one seems to be listening. I feel like a lot of his issues are my fault. I just think if I only could work less, maybe if I would have been home more, I should have been a better mom, I should have not let him get away with so much. People tell me its not my fault but it doesnt matter what they say. It doesnt make me feel any better.
We spent a couple hours at a Crisis Clinic yesterday and she told us that she recomended hospitalization and told us to head to the ER and they would get the process started. So we did and 5 hours later we went home with no help. I called her back today and she said they never should have let us leave. They should have found him a bed. Well I know enough to know that there are not ever enough beds in the childrens psych units. So she told us to head up to Primarys and they would find us a place to get him admitted to. Well 4 hours later and all we got was a telephone number for a guy that can tell me about residential and day treatment centers. I cant call him until monday and I was feeling ok about this when we left until we got home and started freaking out again.I just dont know what to do. Of course I dont want my child admitted anywhere but he obviously needs more help than what he is getting from me or meds or his psychiatrist. I am literally just sick. I dont know how much more of this I can take. Its sounds wrong but my child is literally abusing me. He is not "Jayden" its like he is possessed or something. I rarely see his cute personality anymore. I cant take him anywhere and if he keeps it up were going to lose our apartment. Not to mention I have to be scared that my stupid neighbors are going to call the police because of his screaming( thinking he is being abused). I just dont know where to go to next. No one is listening or doing anything and I really just feel like giving up. Maybe Ive lost him for good. Maybe he cant return to his "normal" self.